Ah yes, there are
some things in this lifetime that are certain. Birth, death and taxes
seem to frequently head this list though there are those who would insist
that we do not actually have to pay taxes (tempting as that is, I'm not
bold enough to challenge that one). Sunrise, sunset, the ebb & flow of the
tides are fairly constant as well.
Years come and years go, and when they do, many of us succumb to the
dreaded New Year's Resolution. Even with a hot branding iron, I could not
impress upon you the potential for damage wrought by that long established and
fairly useless ritual: the making of the New Year's Resolution.
Let's consider the whole process, if you're game. Historically, the whole
idea is said to date back to ancient Babylonia. While there is certainly
merit and stability in traditions, standing the "test of time" etc. one
could certainly make a compelling argument in favor of evolution, progress
and living in the here & now! There aren't too many folks still plowing
their fields by hand nor writing on clay tablets these days. We have
That notwithstanding, the whole process seems a bit steeped in negativity.
We take stock of ourselves, admitting gross imperfections (not a bad thing
to do now & then... privately). Then we seem to be plagued by some
well-meaning perfectionist who chirps "and what's your new year's
resolution?", often said with that condescending tone reminiscent of a
painful encounter generally rooted in our childhood. We know where this is
going... right down the road of judgment & condemnation. Somehow, just
because we've been asked, it is assumed the interrogator deserves an
answer. Do they?
Assuming they do, we blurt out our great flaw, the one we've puzzled over,
& considered worthy of such intense remedial activity, only to receive a
calculated look of disdain & the likely response of, "Oh, well mine
is...". Ever notice how trivial and easily attainable their resolution seems when compared to
your own? Embarrassed? Heck yes!!!
While it is important for our personal growth and development to
set and review our goals, this is best achieved on an ongoing basis,
taking an honest look at our needs and abilities and making adjustments as
necessary. Doing this will likely take us farther along the path to
success than a yearly exercise in futility which often spawns a guilt
gremlin whose vocabulary is limited to three words i.e.: shoulda, coulda,
I invite you to join my little band of renegades who bravely say "no" to
the New Year's Resolution and soar ever upward, unencumbered, secure in
the knowledge that our personal growth and success is assured by our
honesty with ourselves and our ability to focus our energies where needed
to attain our highest good.